I learned many things from my divorce and marriage of 16 years coming to an end, but the BIGGEST lesson I learned was that…
It was a GIFT.
<<< (That’s me after receiving this gift!)
And YOUR divorce or breakup is also a gift the universe is giving YOU.
I know…I know. It doesn’t feel like it is. Divorce can be one of the most painful experiences you go through in your life.
I don’t mean to diminish or minimize the pain, the fears, the difficulty, and the overwhelming hurt that you’ve experienced.
And I know that others don’t see it as a gift, either. I remember when I was first getting a divorce and I would tell someone, ”I’m getting a divorce,” the first thing most of them would say to me was, “I’m sorry.” But really, it would have been more encouraging and accurate for them say, “Congratulations.”
Think about this for a moment…
Even if you don’t believe this right now, your divorce or breakup is giving you an amazing gift. I’ll explain this in a moment. Just keep reading to find out HOW my divorce was a gift to ME, how it is a gift to YOU, and how you can open this gift and experience it in your life.
This GIFT is the higher purpose of your divorce/breakup.
When my marriage started falling apart, my Spiritual Support Team guided me to do the Tough Mudder. Crazy! I know. Especially when I hated mud. I wouldn’t even garden because I didn’t like the feeling of dirt on my hands! Plus, it was going to be a physically, mentally and emotionally challenging event—a 10-mile course with 20 military-style obstacles, all involving mud!
<<< (That’s me going through the mud…and I am smiling thanks to my Team’s helpful insights and higher perspective on it. Otherwise, that picture would have been of me crying!)
My Team told me to go through this experience filled with muddy and tough obstacles to explain to me the similarities between the challenges in that event and in life. They said to me, “Every challenge brings with it a gift. Every. Single. One.”
And in the case of divorce, major breakup or heartbreak, you are being given a unique opportunity to:
- FREE yourself from limitation and emotional attachments
- Reconnect and fall in LOVE with your True Self
- Empower yourself (in ways you would not otherwise)
- Reinvent yourself and your life from a place of connection to Who You Really Are
How do I know this? Because I’ve lived it…I’ve done all these things, which helped me take what was the darkest time in my life—my divorce, and turn it into the brightest and most life-giving gift I have received. It gave me back to myself!
This is the journey I wrote about in detail in my book, The Gift of Divorce, A Journey of Empowerment Through Self-Love.
Now it is your choice to receive your gift or not.
I can help you SEE the gift within your divorce or breakup, just like my Team guided me to do with mine.
I can help you OPEN this gift and fully step into it so that you can:
- FREE yourself from limitation and emotional attachments
- Reconnect and fall in LOVE with your True Self
- Empower yourself
- Reinvent yourself and your life from a place of connection to Who You Really Are
I understand where you are. I’ve been there. I understand the fears, the pain, feeling abandoned, guilty and angry. I know what it’s like wondering how I would make it alone, how I would be able to support myself and my children, and if I would ever be happy again.
And I’ve also healed myself, and transformed my life into the most beautiful reality, even better than I imagined!
Now…
- I am surrounded by friends and people who love and support me
- My relationship with my boys is better than ever
- My children are thriving
- My body is in its best health and shape ever
- I went from having over $80,000 in debt to being debt free!
- I am doing the work I love
- I live in a beautiful home, the right size and perfect location
- I rediscovered my passion for dancing and I get to do that several times per week
- I am currently manifesting my ideal romantic relationship
- I am free to be me, without fear of judgment
- I know how I can turn around every challenge to serve me in the highest
- I am truly happy and fulfilled
My life has been designed to help you do this, too…to help you create a life you absolutely love supported by the universe in every way.
Imagine…being so excited and happy about your life that you don’t even think about your ex!
Imagine…not being triggered by your ex anymore because you are at peace, feeling balanced and know how to handle every situation life throws at you from this place of connection to your higher guidance.
Imagine…having the time of your life and having so much fun that now you are saying, “Thank you!!!” to your ex for the past experiences and the gifts you have received!
Yep. This is ALL possible! I did it…and you can do it, too!
Do you know what gifts you have received from your divorce or breakup? Would you like to find out? Let me know in the Comments below.
This is a beautiful post! And I have watched you go through the divorce and thought — Wow! Now THAT’S a different way to handle divorce.
This experience can shatter people, make them feel less-than, inadequate, unloved, not-good-enough, scared, insecure…it can feel like life has ended. But when I watched you go through it, I saw how you never blamed your ex. Never talked nastily about him….not because you were trying to be saintly, but because you were trying to see it from a higher perspective, and you were realizing with the help of your guides that this whole thing was freeing you up to live the life YOU wanted to.
I have heard you express so much gratitude for your ex. And I saw how your holding your vibration high attracted amazing stuff in your life right from the start of the process.
I saw you getting fitter and healthier, even as you cried. I saw you starting a new life in a new house….a house that is sooooo YOU – full of light, peace, lightness, joy.
I saw you wipe away massive debt like it was nothing. I saw you buy a new car.
I saw your sons blossom into amazing young men who respect and love you, and seek guidance from you. I see you living it up going for dancing, parties….writing your first book – a best-seller, you radiating joy each moment, you inspiring people with your light, you working so successfully on your business…and SO much more.
I hope many more can do divorce the way you did it. And I hope many more can actually really live a life full of fun, love, passion, laughter, freedom the way you do. I know you can guide people well, because you have actually WALKED this path, and are still walking.