How Not to Feel Lonely When Alone This Christmas

How Not to Feel Lonely When Alone This Christmas

Are you home alone for the holidays this year and absolutely dreading it? 

For so many of us this year, being isolated from family and friends is fast becoming an unwanted reality. 

You may be thinking…

If this is you, know that you are not the only one feeling this way! 

This year’s holiday season will be very challenging for most of us. Not only has it been a difficult year in so many ways, but over this holiday season, many of us will now be physically distanced from those we love the most — when we usually look forward to this special time of year to share, connect with one another, and to celebrate!

Like you, I’ll be spending most of the holidays at home, by myself. 

As I reflect on this, I am remembering what my Spiritual Support Team (of Angels and Guides) has taught me.

Every challenge brings with it a gift. Every. Single. One. 

And this holiday season is no different. 

It’s like the universe is giving YOU a gift this Christmas!

But, are you open to discovering and receiving this special gift?

If so, you will no longer feel lonely and disconnected… instead, you will feel connected and loved.

Would this be worth it to you? Yes? Then, keep reading!

3 Powerful Ways to Shift from Loneliness to Wholeness and Connection:

1. Reconnect with Yourself

You cannot be lonely if you like the person you are alone with.”

– Wayne Dyer

Whenever we feel lonely, what we are truly “missing” is the deep, loving connection within ourselves.  Being physically alone is actually an opportunity to reconnect with yourself. To take this time to BE with yourself.  To know yourself more intimately.

To self-reflect, reclaim and celebrate “YOU”. 

This is the most wonderful gift of Love you could ever receive! 

When you feel whole and connected to yourself…then, when you reconnect with others, it comes from a place of wholeness instead of scarcity.  A strong, loving connection with yourself will make all your relationships richer and more enjoyable.

Inspired Idea #1:

1. Take some time to treat yourself like you would a lover or best friend.
2. Set your scene with soft music in the background, light a candle, and make yourself cozy.
3. Get a journal and a pen and start your inner love connection with a conversation.

Self-Talk Conversation Starters:

• “___ (Your name), I am excited to be taking this time to connect with you in a deeper way. I want to connect with you more intimately. Get to know you. I want to listen to you, appreciate you…and just BE with you. I am looking forward to being your best friend and am here for you. I love you.”
• What are you choosing to let go of?
• What do you appreciate/love about yourself? What are you most proud of?
• What is really important to you?

2. Love the Loneliness

“When Love Appears, Fear Disappears”

-My Spiritual Support Team

The real reason loneliness is bubbling up within you is so you can acknowledge it, allow it, and ultimately, LOVE it. 

Because loving loneliness is the most powerful way to heal it. 

Loving whatever feelings begin to emerge, and acknowledging that part of you that is feeling them, is vital to receiving your special gift!

When you believe in the healing power of love, you will make room for the truth about who you really are. As a result, you will become whole — in the connection to yourself, others and everything in the universe.

Inspired Idea #2:

1. Continue connecting with yourself, but this time you will create the space within to feel the pang of loneliness and love it.
2. You may get emotional during this exercise, and that is perfect. Whatever happens is perfect. Realize that the feelings that emerge are leaving.  So, just love them as they come up to be acknowledged and released.

Self-Love Conversation Starters:

• Ask yourself, “What am I feeling? What am I feeling within my body?” (I.e. lonely)
• Tell yourself, “What I am feeling is perfect.”
• “I love you, loneliness.” 
• “___ (Your name), you have permission to feel lonely. You have permission to feel this pattern in your body.”
• “Loneliness, I let you BE…and I let you GO with Love.”

3. Be Your Own Santa Claus!

Since the holidays are all about giving, why not give yourself the most amazing gift of all!

Ask yourself, 

Make a list, and check it twice!

Inspired Idea #3:

1. Make a list of things and experiences that would make you feel special and loved.
2. Gift yourself what you have asked for!
3. Receive these gifts with gratitude in your heart…knowing that you are truly loved and connected to your inner self.

How to “Treat Yourself” over the Holidays:

• Go for Gratitude Walks, even if it’s snowy outside! During these walks, list the many things you are truly grateful for—from “small and seemingly insignificant” to “big and really special.” 
• Order your favorite dish from your favorite restaurant and watch a special movie on Christmas Eve.
• Begin an online course, phone an old friend, Zoom with family, or indulge in that second piece of chocolate cheesecake. 🙂

So, as you can see…being alone for the holidays doesn’t have to mean you will be sad, or lonely, for long!

There is always more than one way to perceive your situation!  

If you choose to believe that being alone is a chance to reconnect with your true self, and take this quiet time to embrace and release whatever feelings may come to the surface…then you stand to receive all the wonderful Gifts of Love the universe is offering you, over this very special holiday season.

I wish you love and much joy in the coming year!

Dumari